Relationships Take Work

Any relationship you have with any individual is going to take a lot of work

However, it should mostly be positive and if you foresee yourself being in a relationship with someone for any amount of time except a bumpy ride

A LTR is going to require equal parts effort

I don’t care what the red pill accounts say

Sure some of it is true but if you two are not on the same page, communicating properly, and walking on egg shells you need to take action

This may involve going to therapy for yourself, having her go to therapy, or going to couples therapy

I’ve done all these before and they always have some benefit

Therapy should have an end date in mind but some people may need to go for life

It just depends on the individual

The modern world is not designed for our old primal brains and most people I know are in therapy right now or have been in the past

Rarely have they just hated it unless they had a bad therapist

Now this won’t solve everything - it is still going to require a lot of work on both parties to make sure it works out

You need to listen and make them feel heard

You need to tell them things that could be as simply as what you are having for dinner

Being Kurt and short doesn’t help anyone

If you two want to keep dating you need to discuss topics such as:

If you want kids

If you want to travel

Where you will be spending the holidays

These are the big three

I try to let my SO plan date nights - they seem to enjoy this more than you planning them