Learn How to Navigate your Relationship
Living with someone can be difficult especially if you both work from home
Figuring out your schedule with them and with your family and friends can feel overwhelming
You are bound to get annoyed with each other at some point and also every month the girl is going to PMS
Sometimes her periods are worse than others and mentally they can act “off” and it can get really annoying at times
Then you need to look within to when you might be annoying
If you can stay at a family members house once a week
You have to give each other space
It’s too much to be with anybody all the time even if they are the easiest person to deal with in the world
Get out for a walk
Go call a friend
Visit a family member
Let each other be able to be a person separate from the other
Go volunteer together or separate
Have dinner once a week out
Get a massage once a month
Navigating a relationship is important
Even if you both work at the office - you have to navigate how you are going to be dealing with each other’s families, friends, who goes where, on what trips and talk it out so no one feels left out or unheard
You don’t want resentment to fill up and boil over
Healthy couples do fight
They also communicate
They find a way to travel along life’s pathways
Do some writing
Do some reading
Watch a show you both like
Make time for sex
Most relationships do not work because it’s hard to be with another person forever essentially
You have to make it work but not force it to work
Never be afraid to seek help and get some accountability
Whether its from friends, family, even a shrink
It doesn’t matter
You two will have to learn how to be in each other’s lives no matter the circumstances
Be kind, forgiving, but hold your boundaries
Don’t be disrespected and walked all over
Relationships have their ebbs and flows
It isn;t just you anymore
You will likely have similar sleep schedules, but you don’t have to
You will even have different times you eat as well as together
You may need to borrow their car or they may have to borrow yours
You need to see who cooks, cleans, goes to the store, the laundry, etc
Maybe you both do a bit of the chores separate and together
It may change up depending on schedules
Always communicate
Examples could be like “Relax a bit I need to do this”
Go into another room or simply start working
Sub communication says a lot
Don’t just bark at them
Your tone is everything
Maybe they had a late night and went out with friends
You can’t always be on the same schedule
If you have kids together, then this gets even more complicated
Your sleep habits with definitely change and you need to gain some resiliency before all this
Having kids and getting married to the wrong woman is the worst thing you can do for your life
It’s best to give your relationship time to grow and change
You are two souls - the more your souls intertwine instead of egos the less hurt feelings, guilt, and feeling helpless
A relationship is a bumpy ride and takes lots of work
No one is forcing you to be in one
However, its a great way to learn about yourself as they are a mirror into yourself
If you are with the right person they can be very similar to you but also very different
Give each other space and time to grow as people
Don’t rush into anything
Move in when the time is right because eventually you will likely live with them
You learn each other faster this way
However, some people get married and don’t live together
You get to define your relationship
No one else
Don’t put too much pressure on it
Learn to listen and discuss things properly
If you are going to be with someone for life make sure they don’t make you want to kill yourself
Don’t do it because you have no options
Don’t do it because you don’t want to be alone
Do it because you want to grow with someone and do it because you want a family
It’s a test of your patience and how well you can work with the member of the opposite sex
Everything in life that is good is also hard
This goes for your job
Friends
Gym
Diet
Nothing good comes easy but it’s the trials and tribulations that make life worth living
It all shouldn’t completely drain you
But their will be times where you will feel drained no matter what you do
Learn to go with lifes ebbs and flows and you will enjoy your time on earth much better
Until next time,
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