How to Make Friends in a New City
A followers asked “How do I make friends in a new city?”
I thought it was the perfect question since tons of people move everyday
They bring their families with them and or they move solo
The easiest way to make friends in a new city is by simply showing up to the same spots where you want to meet people of similar interests over and over again
Do this 4 times:
Say you go to a yoga class
You can start aggressively meeting people there and do other activities with them such as grabbing coffee or a drink after the class
Go to that class at the same time and same day every week for at least 4 weeks
We do this because it will likely be the same people because most people keep the same routines
Pick a day and time that works for you and go
It applies to everything
If you enjoy wine, you can find a wine tasting that occurs weekly and become part of a group that ventures to vineyards on the weekends
Always start small
If you have a fondness for pickleball or tennis simply join a lifetime or facility that adheres to either one
Show up whenever you like in this case because you already pay the prerequisite member fees
Say you like smoking cigars they have lounges and have new member nights
You can go in the day time and ask if they have any new space for members
These are all great places to bring any other friends you may meet
Just remember most friends will be conditonal based on the fact you keep doing those activites together like yoga. They might only be into yoga and that’s all you will see them at
Don’t make people feel oligated
Don’t be needy
Quick ways to become more confident:
Always be prepared IE bring your yoga mat or own cigars
Don’t rely on others at all at frist
Give tons and tons of value
Make them laugh, help them in tough situations, mirror them, and show them you are trustworthy and can keep secrets
Keeping everyones secrets to yourself makes you a powerful entity
Not only do you know specific things about people, but you won’t tell them about others secrets
They will know this because you keep your mouth shut
This alone will make you more friends than anything else
Show you are invaluable even if you are a newcomer on the scene
Ask them questions about their life and places to go since you are new in town
People love giving advice and suggestions
If you want to find the spots to go out you can look up spots on instagram from the places tab. You can google the top spots in your city.
Or simply go up to most bartenders and ask them where they like to go and where the “Fickle 500” go meaning the people who go out the most
They go to places like 1 oak , hotel Godfrey, and poppy in LA as well as Tao, the ritz in Dallas, Bisou in Dallas and Houston, Bottle blonde, Casamigos in scottsdale, Mastros, Delilah in Vegas and LA, nightclubs such as Omnia in Vegas, XS, Encore beach club, Beauty and Essex in Vegas and Eleven in Miami, and so much more.
Start with everything I suggested above first as it will work in all places in the world