How to get invited to Private Parties
By now you should have a firm understanding of what a social circle is and how it has evolved from cold approach pickup to “Social Circle Game”
After you have met a few key individuals, you can now drive through their network. This means you can meet their friends and their friends friends. If they are people of influence and status then a good amount of their friends will be worth meeting
This is also how you get the hottest girls. They are never any models pulled off the street, at least not anymore. Everyone is meeting people online and from their going out in person
Start following all the hottest girls in your city. Start opening them on IG via their stories. A simple 🔥 emoji could easily be your first opener. Then reopen them later on a later day
In Social circle game you can have a ton of “Same night lays”
But in the beginning I would move slower on this
I’m gone through such lengths as 3 months without getting laid, just to make sure I got into the right circles without pissing everyone off
This is a bit extreme and interim you can be be on the apps or messaging plenty of girls via IG. No one actually gives a shit but you look way higher status if you look less thirsty.
Thus creating certain events in the future you could only get invited to by knowing these key individuals.
These events will be the most important and fun ones you can get into
Constantly be posting to IG to FOMO everyone who follows you
Post memes that will get attention and what you do throughout the day
These restaurant and nightclub owners will start watching your stories
Happens to me daily
Making it much easier to talk with them as you have put them in a fan zone, so to speak
Have them buy into your lifestyle
They will want you around and will invite you to things
The key is to keep a low footprint. The more indirect you can be, especially in the beginning of building your social circle, opens more doors than you can imagine
The power of mere exposure alone makes people like you
Seeing the same people over and over makes them comfortable around you
If you want to speed this up start stacking commonalties
We’re going to cover the 3 core commonalities to connect over: people, places and experiences. When you understand the core categories of commonalities, you want to reverse engineer your qualifying questions
For example, if you’re speaking with a staff member at One Oak in New York city, and you want to establish a commonality based off of location, you can ask, “Have you ever been to One Oak in Los Angeles?” Most industry professionals have attended their club in other cities, and if he indeed has, it then sets up an initial small commonality that you can dive deeper into.
Once you’ve hit on a commonality it’s your job to enhance the connection and solidify it. The first step in enhancing a commonality is to have a sense of enthusiasm about not only the topic, but the serendipity behind the connection
It’s not enough to hit on a commonality, it’s your reaction that makes or breaks the connection. If the shared commonality doesn’t excite you then why would the person you’re talking to care
To be clear, I don’t want you to be over the top and excessively fake. Instead, when you hit on a commonality it’s important to show a genuine surprise over the serendipity of the moment and interest in the interaction
The second tool to enhance and solidify commonalities is to connect via people, places and experiences.
People
When having a conversation about a specific topic you want to ask yourself, “who from my circle has this commonality?” This is a key point to understand – if a friend of yours shares the commonality being discussed, it is as strong as if the commonality was shared directly by you.
The next question to ask is yourself is, “what mutual friends could we have?” One of the strongest commonalities you can have with someone is knowing the same people.
Places
The next commonality builder is “places.” Always ask yourself, “what interesting places are related to the topic at hand.” Having knowledge of trendy bars, clubs, restaurants and unique activities will allow you to take advantage in 3 ways:
Shared Locations: If you’ve both been to the same place it will immediately create a connection.
Future Projections: If the person you’re speaking with hasn’t been to a place that’s related to your conversational thread, then that becomes an opportunity for a future projection.
Social Proof: Knowing the places and people related to your topic allows to demonstrate social proof.
Experiences
Finally, shared experiences will allow you to build commonalities.
Having experienced the same event, activity or having gone through a similar situation will connect you to the person you’re talking to.
Eating at a particular restaurant, attending the same event, and even negative experiences if shared, can create bonds and connection.