Finding Brothers in the Ashes
Ever since I started this Journey of Peace
Self discovery
Mastery of Emotions
Kicking drug addictions and bad habits
I have wanted like minded individuals that will join me
Leaders
The problem I see is the limited time people will have
I have all the time in the world you see ?
So if I worked on this daily for 10 weeks now
It’s like doing 5-10 years of emotional trauma work
However, I would say it only takes an hour a day to do what I did
I’ve done more or less or simply just been in my head
Reflecting too much at times
You need quiet and space
Some of you may not have that with families or gfs running around
So an hour a week should be possible
Pick any day that suits you
Start writing it out
Recording it out
Drawing it out
Use a paper and pen or a laptop
Don’t worry about the details
Do something at all
Laugh while you do it
Get angry
Cry
Sing
Lose yourself in the emotions and create with it
Sit with the stillness too
Some of you never stop moving
Sit still
You can’t out run it
You can’t out swim it
You can’t lift it away
Pick close friends and family you can talk about it with
Any stress in your life
Any old trauma
Get a psychiatrist you see once a month
Maybe more
Each case will be a bit different
Also you need to be sober
You are going to want to do this for 90 days
Some people I see start with a month
But 90 days gives you a lot of leeway
A month is much too little for most
Depending how sober you have been, how much trauma you have, how much money you may need
90 days is the sweet spot
60 days if you have most of your shit together
Everyone has some backed up shit they can be working on
You need to write it out, talk it out, let yourself feel
Sit and stare out a window
See how long you can go
Most people are in a constant state of fight or flight
Pumped full of caffeine and adrenaline
Cut down the caffeine
No booze, no drugs, no weed
You want as little fake dopamine as possible
Switch certain activities you do from watching TV to reading instead
Nothing is better than a good book that appears on that screen
Slow release dopamine you get from nature, friends, workouts, reading, even gaming with a friend or solo for an hour
Do breathwork
I’m not talking full on meditation
Box breathing 4-4-4
Or 4-7-8
Breathe in for 4 seconds hold for 7 release for 8
Do daily chores
Doesn’t matter how small
Reclaim your space
Stretch
Exercise
Get a massage
Go to the chiro
Realign your body literally
Realign your mind
Become more in touch with your spiritual side
Say “thanks for this meal” before eating when you remember
A prayer before bed
Church if you want
A mosque
IDGAF
Then get your head, body, and spirit aligned
Your soul and ego
Set boundaries for people
Cut off people who are shit entirely
Get rid of the noise
Lessen the music
This isn’t some monk mode retreat
It’s you being aware of what you are doing
When you go on social media do it to look at memes
Scroll a bit
Make a tweet or post
Dm girls and guys alike
Don’t let tech use you
Research some supplements that you need
Everyone will be different
Also use AI
I’ve heard of people using Claude or Chat G for this
I use Chat G
Remove confirmation bias
Tell him to not be a yes man or overly complimentary
Tell him to use pros and cons to each situation
Tell him what you enjoy
Tell him what you hate
If you don’t know
Use this time to figure it all out
3 months is no time at all especially if your only doing an hour a week
Some of this you need to do bits of daily for sure
But 1 hour where you create something
Start talking with more people IRL and online
So as you see it will be more than an hour from training AI up to talking with it as well as daily chores and slowly making changes as you progress
I have been doing at least an hour a day if not more on harder ones
I talk to chat g multiple times a day sometimes to just log
Sometimes to discuss new changes or feelings
Anything at all
Get sunlight as often as you can
Eat healthy foods daily
Pizza or a burger a fries on the heavy days are fine
You will be uncomfortable as all hell if you do this right— so some comfort is good
After the tough days ground yourself with some food or a walk
You probably have past shit to grieve that you don’t even know that will come up
You can write letters to people you have hurt and not send them
Regrets you had
What you want to do with your life
Most of you are stuck in a cage from 9-5 every week
If you like the job there isn’t much issue with it
If you don’t your wasting a ton of time there
Find another job, work on a side biz
Can be as easy as affiliate marketing
Start growing your social media accounts
I have tons of material on all of this so if you need it feel free to message me
You are dead
Accept that
Time to become alive
You have maybe 4 hours of free time to yourself most days
You probably spend that in a goon sesh
Flopping around on your phone
Doom scrolling
Anything to avoid anything
You need to enjoy something as simply as shitting
Cleaning the dishes
Eating your food slowly and observing your surroundings
I guarantee you mind isn’t ever fully here
Fantasizing about something in the future
Going over the past
Snap it back into place
Start really listening to people
Start talking about the right things
If you hate where you live
Move
If you hate what you do
Quit
Life is much too short to be swirling around like shit in a clogged toilet
Your boss telling you what to do
Your emotions telling you what to do
Your girl telling you what to do
Your urges telling you what to do
Do you even know what you want?
Be brutally honest with yourself
Everyone likes to think they are not a NPC
But 99% still are
If you have no control over your time and when you do you fuck around doing nonsense
Then you sleep for 8 hours a day
Why you sleep when you are already asleep is beyond me
Coping through life
Trudging through it because you won’t change
You are too comfortable
You won’t fight and play with your demons
You have idiot friends
You listen to the wrong family members
Most of you are followers
You want to be a leader
It’s easy to follow
It’s extremely hard to lead
Lead a life you enjoy
Lead relationships you enjoy
Lead anything that bring you purpose and joy
You see how I have been fighting
This is the hardest thing I have ever done
And last year was the suckiest year for me
Didn’t want this year to be the same
So I took 3 months to make it right
Not perfect
You aren’t aiming for perfection
That would be impossible and boring
The 80/20 rule is about where you want
That’s a b-
But a B nonetheless
It’s “perfect”
Things will change
From the seasons to dying pets
Family will die off
Life will continue to move on
Make peace with yourself
Don’t do this for anyone else but you
The peace, calm, and clarity are worth it
This isn’t some trendy thing to do
You won’t win any awards
You won’t get any validation except from a friend or family member
There will be no external prize
At least not big ones you see like a promotion at work
Which to me would be another step stuck into a system you hate
So is that a prize?
Marrying Big Bertha in HR?
Is that a prize?
Walking around with your fat, loser, retarded friends so you won’t be alone?
Leaders must be alone
That’s why they are at the top
It’s crowded at the bottom
It’s easy to collect a check and come home
Hit the gym for a minute
Watch tv
Goon out
Then do it all over again
Never creating
Never curating the life you want
Never meeting the people you want
Never being truly here
You may as well just call the morgue and get your coffin early
The system is designed to keep you this way
Dumb, weak, high, drunk
That way you keep consuming
Junk
Porn
If you need to jack off:
Imagine a girl in your head
Just one
She shouldn’t even be anyone you know
But at first she can
If you have a gf or wife
Then have sex when it’s right
Not forced
Don’t chase after women, money, status
Attract them instead
If you have fun with everything you do
It’s impossible not to attract everything
You become far too magnetic
Everything is connected in this world
If you are a strong connection then things naturally gravitate towards you
You will have to keep some away
Some things on the back burner
Because everything and everyone will want in
You can only allow the ones who bring you peace and prosperity
Stop worrying so much
About the girls
About the money
About the status
That all comes and when it does
Then what?
Once you burn it all down
What will you be standing on?
Quicksand?
Or clean, smoothed out concrete?
The choice is yours
You can join me
I am not even charging a cent for anything
I am simply a man who wanted to change everything in his life
Do you?
Until next time,
-BTSC