Family Really is Everything
If you don’t have strong ties with your family for whatever reason you need to start calling them and visiting them when you can
Over the past week my brother was in town and I got to go swimming with him and to a special tennis event
We hung around with my mom a lot
We talked quite a bit
Had a drunken heart to heart
Now that we are both older we try to keep in touch near daily and he comes to visit a few times a year
I can’t stand travelling so I only went to visit for his wedding last year
Also he lives in a place just impossible to get to without a flight, two ubers over an hour long, and its a frozen wasteland half the year
He loves travelling and is always going somewhere so he doesn’t seem to have a problem coming to see my mom and I who both live in the same city
I’m sure he would love it if I came there but he’s very busy in the week and travels most weekends
He goes on a week long honey moon next week so it would be very difficult to nail him down
We had an awesome time and it was like he was 10 again but much more helpful
He was always so lost when he as younger just in his own world and one day he just grew into an adult seemingly overnight
It was such a drastic change
Honestly, I always thought he would be autistic or have aspergers and would need help
Funny how I feel much more autistic then he
He was always by the book getting Angel of the Month Awards
I was simply winging everything and getting in trouble all the time
Seemingly still do but have matured a ton especially over the last year
Last year I started Hydr8, dislocated my shoulder again, had nose surgery for my sinus, started allergy shots, went to his wedding, got blasted by a hurricane returning from his wedding, got stuck in Milwaukee at the Shit Inn for days, my moms place got robbed, and my relationship started suffering with my then fiance
This was all in the same few weeks for the most part
My hair started turning white on the sides
Seemed to have aged a decade
Dread started settling in
I quit weed at the same time too
Everything had to happen all at once
As the saying goes, when it rains it pours
It was my toughest year to date but a huge wake up call
I realized how lucky I am, how grateful I am, how resilient I can be
I suffered for a full year which I did maybe once in my twenties as well
I took it out on others and didn’t socialize as much
Ended up fairly depressed
Ended my relationship and felt much better
Started finding myself again
Healed with the help of my chiropractor and swimming
Allergies got way better and this year I am seeing all the benefits of that pain pay off
I started seeing my ex again casually
We don’t live together anymore but have been through everything and connect on every level you can imagine
We just became an old married couple too fast
We went to Fredrickburg this year and had a good time
Her world got flipped upside down but she has a huge support system
This last week she was in a major car accident that totaled her car
Luckily she was ok and had cuts and bruises but nothing major
If she had been killed my world would’ve flipped upside down
I went out to visit her at her grandparents where she lives now
They housed me for almost a week while the power was out during the hurricane
I never really had grandparents except a step grandma who I could write many stories about
She was a character but died when I was younger
These two have filled that grandparent void
They are both business owners. He is retired and his wife still works
They bicker a lot but are very good people at heart
We all get along very well and since we bonded over that hurricane
We usually watch some TV, play cards, and the gals cook
Grandpa and I drink and the girls do sometimes too
Over the last 10 days I’ve had more family time than all year
I see my mom often and that helps a lot but having my brother, gf, and her grandparents around really brings out the best in me
My life this year has been so much better as I sobered up, healed, have a better relationship with my gf, got closer with my mom and brother
I go out when I need to reconnect with old friends
A lot of them don’t have any family at all
This is the reason they go out so often
I’m only doing once a month right now
I was going out a ton in the beginning of the year
Humans needs other humans
They compete, play status games with them, tell stories, plan future events
There was a guy in prison his whole life and he was well liked and known
He got released and was a nobody and just wanted to go back to jail to his friends and family essentially
That how powerful it is
Nothing matters more
Not money
Not women
Not grinding away your entire life at some job the boss couldn’t give two shits about
Either reconnect with family members, visit, see old friends, or make new ones
Or start your own family
None of the above is easy exactly but its much more fulfilling
Most great things in life are not easy
However, your family and friends are the only people who will remember you when you die
Same as you to them
You can always make or save more money
You can never get your family back once they go
My dad died 4 years ago and not a day passes where I don’t think about him
Life is short
Make sure you are playing it right
Best,
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