Introduction:
In following Bowtied Owl's contribution to this newsletter, I'd like to take this opportunity to thank you, the reader, for dedicating your time to this article. I also want to express my admiration for Bowtied Social, whom I've recently met but greatly appreciate for the valuable information they share. To access more of my work, you can follow me on X at @BowTiedBar, where I provide insights on connecting with people, women, and life.
It's honestly hard to pinpoint a niche. If you ever take the opportunity to work behind the bar for an extended period, you'll learn firsthand that the knowledge you gain can rival a four-year degree in various subjects. I've spent ten years in the restaurant industry, working at beach bars, clubs, fine dining restaurants, and Irish pubs up and down the East Coast.
Bartending has allowed me to earn a significant income, meet thousands of people, and start multiple businesses thanks to the flexible schedule it offers.
Connecting with the right bartender can immediately expand your sphere of influence. Bartenders hold one of the few jobs that act as a vector for social interaction, facilitating meetings between people from all walks of life.
One of my favorite examples of this can be found in the first two episodes of Rocky's new series, "Tulsa King." A former capo for the mob, locked up for 25 years, finds himself in Tulsa, Arizona, a seemingly remote city in the middle of nowhere. In just two days, by befriending a taxi driver and a bartender, he's making deals and discovering connections all over town. Two connections turned into hundreds because he focused on the right people. While there may be slight exaggerations for TV, the game plan remains effective.
Timing is crucial. You'll struggle to develop a relationship if you go during the busiest times. Opt for a later dinner or nightcap and ask open-ended questions. Be approachable; they want to connect with you and will make it easy for you.
It shouldn't have to be said, but maintain cleanliness and avoid behaving inappropriately. If you're following the advice on this page, I assume you know the basics of dressing and conducting yourself appropriately.
A common mistake people make is becoming a regular and leveraging that to pursue romantic encounters with one or more individuals at the establishment they visit. This can quickly categorize you as someone seeking only casual relationships, which is fine if that's your intention, but it can limit the other valuable connections you could make.
Bartending, or knowing the bartender, grants you access. Generously tip and visit a place frequently enough to establish yourself as a familiar face. I've closed dozens of deals for my guests by understanding their professions and how to reach them.
Inns and taverns have been at the heart of our communities since the founding of this country. You'll be surprised by how many people you can meet.
I want to thank Bowtiedbar for writing this guest post. He’s a great new account in the Jungle who will go far and I suggest following him here